A Moment to Share...

Can it be possible to FEEL so content from sipping a warm tea, typing on my computer with the softly lit lamp and Van Morrison playing in the background? Some of my favourite moments are after a packed-solid day, coming home and just spending time with myself.

Can life be this simple? 

I can't argue enough that it can be. I haven't had to fight to be here either. Not anymore. I've come home, cleaned up the house and was looking forward to this moment. The moment to be with myself. And, boy, did it not disappoint.

Moments like this can catch us off guard. You know, I don't remember feeling these moments much in the past. The feeling of complete tranquility in my heart and mind. Not thinking too far ahead nor holding onto the past.

It's a beautiful thing.

I have realized that when we fight and fight for things to work a certain way, like a plan we are inflexible to readjust, it never works the way we want it to. We fight the current. Hit obstacle after obstacle. Nothing feels like it works out with how we want it to. We feel discouraged, disappointed and drained.

Is this how I want to feel? Ummm, NO! 

Not I. It was a matter of first feeling gratitude for the moments (as I've mentioned in the past posts). At first, it might be just thinking about them, but the important part is once we can feel it. Once we can feel that moment again, we can easily connect to that moment and crave for more. Once we FEEL it, we allow ourselves to start riding the wave and moving with the flow. Allowing life to bring us along to opportunities and work through what was considered a 'problem' from the past to permanently let it go, are two beautiful results of feeling and reflecting on moments we feel grateful for.

We are meant to have a good life. We are meant to LIVE. And just like this moment of writing, I will have many more as one thing that gratitude has taught me, is that I have FAITH there will be many more. Isn't that what we all want?

And with that, I send light & love your way in hopes you find peace and tranquility in whatever moment is in front of you. If you want more positivity, light and love your way, make sure to stay tuned to the next post in a couple of weeks or join our private Facebook community, Manifesting YOUR MasterLIFE, here: https://goo.gl/fALwM1

 

What the Heck is NLP?

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Lately, the use of NLP in life coaching has come up in discussions and the common question is, 'what is it?'. The general idea of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) is a practice where skills or ways are developed to help people look at other opportunities in front of them in a positive and impactful way. This shift in our perception and opening doors to the opportunities around us bring us to our desired outcome. 

In life, we need a few things to be successful. We can often figure out what we don't want in life, but struggle to see the outcomes we desire. This can be for different reasons but often knowing what we want isn't something we usually practice as other things usually come first. If we can narrow down what our desired outcome is, that is the first step. NLP uses a range of questioning and helps to shift perceptions in a positive way to move in the direction of what we want rather than the things we don't want.

Next comes the awareness. Noticing the small and big things we do that moves us forward. Is what you are doing working? If not, change something in that pattern. We cannot expect change from doing the same thing. The more choices we have and make for ourselves, the easier our chances for growth and success. NLP is heavily used in this area as the training allows us to further examine our opportunities in these small or big things that we do.

Finally, we need to practice flexibility: Flexibility to see the situation and opportunities in front of us; flexibility to see that something could work one time but not another; and flexibility to forgive ourselves and practice kindness by making these changes. Change is not easy for most people and is often seen as a negative thing, but it is necessary to give yourself the permission to be flexible in the movement you are making in your life.

NLP helps throughout the entire process of our transformation. Once we develop the idea of what we want, we can move into awareness and how our actions are or aren't affecting us moving in that direction and finally having the flexibility to understand that things change and maybe your path will take a new route from what you originally thought.

As you can probably imagine, it definitely is not a straight shot, and not every coach use NLP. For me, I use a holistic approach with a combination of NLP techniques. By also tapping into our intuition, our deeper knowing, it can push us further into knowing what direction would have the best potential. 

How to Make Your 2018 Vision Board

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If you weren’t afraid of the outcome, what would you do?

I won’t lie - this isn’t my first vision board. And it won’t be my last.

I had an interesting discussion with a friend about vision boards. Being a yogi, and speaking with other yogis, the idea of how useful the vision board came up. To some, it's a tangible thing that allows us to see what we want to manifest and keep us focused. To others, it can be a tad bit egocentric and manifest things in the wrong way. 

For me, it has been helpful as a visual tool to bring out my heart’s desires. Sure, there are a lot of things in there and you're probably thinking: Damn, you want to manifest all of these things in 2018? That’s a lot in one year! 

I like to dream big and my heart feels 2018 is going to be a great year. I have started many things this year that I want to see blossom in the next year and have placed them on my board as reference and motivation. Okay, MAYBE some are slightly for fun (who doesn’t want a little bit of James "Jamie" Alexander Malcolm MacKenzie Fraser in their life?).

On a serious note, where did I possibly start? Here is a breakdown of what you want to consider when creating your vision board…there are definitely other options and would love to know what you like to include in yours, but this is how I approached mine for 2018.

#1 - What do you want for 2018?

This can be the most difficult part of the whole process. We need to get CRYSTAL clear on the things that we want otherwise, we may get distracted. The vision board helps that drive forward, however, how do you figure out what you want to see?

When first experimenting with vision boards, I used Lululemon’s worksheet that you can find here. I see they have another, more in-depth, worksheet that you can use, here. They use one that encompasses the next few years, so it gives you the chance to make 2018 a stepping stone to one of your bigger picture ideas. There are 3 key things to remember when writing them out: Language (keep it in the present tense), quantifiable and specific, and the date you want it done by. From this point, you can narrow it down and decide what images or words can best represent what you want to manifest.

#2 - Digital or hardcopy? 

Nowadays there are so many options in front of us and you need to decide whether you want to have something physical or digital. They both have advantages: digital can be carried around easily, take little space and seen often; and a hardcopy allows you to really create it from your two hands and gives you options to get creative with the materials you have.

I’ve done mini vision boards using the Wishboard App. It didn’t cost anything for me but I believe there is a fee now. If you have an iPhone, using Pages easily works too! The nice part about this is that you can find pictures, it's more environmentally friendly and we are usually checking our phones.

This time around, I chose to do a physical copy. Living a pretty nomad life, it is hard to collect materials but let’s discuss that now! 

#3 - Materials

Do you want to use a cork board or canvas? Pens? Magazines or printouts? Stickers? Glue? Tape? I even put my embroidery skills to work and embroidered 2018!

There are countless options here. I had to blend some of these things. First, I did want to print out specific things, such as the triathlons I want to compete in next year. The other pieces, I knew I could find from magazines but I didn't want to buy them. As many people tend to have them and don’t know what to do with them afterward, I checked out my local Facebook groups and asked! I also decided to make it a gathering (did you know Spotify has a playlist for vision board parties?!). 

#4 - Putting it together

Many people tell me they aren't creative and this can be frustrating for them. Remember, this is meant to be your own work. It doesn't matter how it looks, the important part is putting it together for you to see and stay motivated. I invite you to play! 

The placement and how you want it to look is completely up to you! Get creative and make mistakes - it’ll have more character that way! 

It ended up being 3 of us who met up, made it a special little aperitivo, had magazines from generous people around Lucca, gathered materials we could share and started making it! Making it with friends ended up being a lot of fun and it added the element of accountability as we would plan and share them with one another.

With 2018 approaching and my vision board hanging on my kitchen wall, I can say I am pretty proud of myself. I am ready for 2018, how about you? 

If you need help with figuring out what you want this coming year or being more decisive in exactly it is that you want, book a free consultation with me today! 

Imagine the Possibilities When We Say, "I Can".

The view this morning prior to my half marathon in Pisa, Italy.

The view this morning prior to my half marathon in Pisa, Italy.

Running up to the fork in the road, I could see the 42km and 21km signage and, at that moment, realized that I had truly missed the turnoff for the 14km run. I had a plan for the 14km run but to add another 7km at that speed just seemed impossible. I had mentally prepared myself for a short distance, not the half marathon! Immediately at 14km, I told my friend to go. He encouraged me to try but I just stumbled out with, “I can’t.” As soon as I said those words, I could feel my body struggle and fight with each step. My energy shifted.

Have you ever felt you just CAN'T go any further? You get hit with obstacle after obstacle and wonder when it will ever stop. Time moves slowly. Your mind becomes overactive with the problems and struggles to find the solutions. How do you feel energetically? Heavy? Tired?

Imagine the possibilities when we say, "I can".

Just by shifting our words, we can really change many of the obstacles we face. See how it feels in your body and your energy when you use the words, "I can" and "I can't". "I can" gives us that little bit of hope and that is when we really need to push through. This takes courage. What happens if we do? We learn to adapt, improve and move forward. What happens if we don’t? We get stuck and give up. 

I don’t want to give up. 

As a life coach and wanting to live my life pushing my own boundaries to evolve, I look for new opportunities to allow this. By pushing new boundaries, I am able to adapt and learn. At first, this moves me into something a bit more uncomfortable, however, it will eventually settle down and become the norm. Then from that norm, new opportunities will arise that allow us to further evolve (like the Hero's Journey I used to love teaching).

At the 14km point, there was an area with water and food - thankfully. I drank a few glasses of water, ate an orange and grabbed a bar. I remember thinking, “okay, I can’t run at the same speed I was for the next 7km, but walking is not enough for me… I need to run but I’ll take it slower. I can do this.” In that moment, everything shifted. I was not only able to reassess my situation but to be flexible to change my plan and to follow through with a new one.  

The first 2.5 km were tough but after that, I found a great groove. As I am working on nutrition through races, I made sure to practice that, too. After getting closer and closer to the finish line, I had recovered and felt good again and picked up my pace in the last kilometer. And before I knew it, I finished my first half marathon!

My, “I can’t” became, “I can” and as sore as I will be tomorrow, I now know that I can do it and pushed myself out of my comfort zone to find a new benchmark. Eventually running half marathons could feel good and lead to running a full marathon (my eventual plans, but you get the point).

Life brings us many different opportunities for growth. Where in your life is your mind stopping you from doing something? What little difference could you make in your life to push your boundaries so that you can evolve and take a step closer to the life you want to be living. Imagine if you only start with the words, “I can." That, in itself, takes courage and celebration as just a tiny shift can have monumental consequences.